You are able to carry much, but that doesn't mean that it is necessary for you to do so. The X of Wands is a card of the oppressed, or the oppressor. Sometimes it is our own thoughts [imagined or real], or our responsibilities that are burdening us that we have taken on. These things may, or may not, be ours to carry.
Begin by examining your own thoughts, beliefs, and responsibilities that do belong to you. Trying to make things easier for people is good; but not when it is robbing them of their responsibilities, or life lessons. They need to do those things for themselves.
You may notice that your load begins to lessen and so does your mood!